It's Time to Plan a Wedding

Chris and I have been engaged for almost 6 months. Wow, the time has gone so fast. When we got engaged, we decided that we wouldn't plan a wedding for a year or so. We wanted to see how living together would be. (Most important! Especially after dating from different cities the entire time we were together.) Living together is great...really, really great. And we've been talking about a wedding.

For some reason, this whole topic makes me nervous. I haven't entirely figured out what it is about my wedding that freaks me out, but I'll announce it when I do. It feels like there's so much expectation wrapped around the event that it's just easier to be overwhelmed. Most days when I think about a wedding, I feel overwhelmed so I stop.

Over Thanksgiving, my parents brought up the topic. They're very supportive and relaxed about it. They just wanted to know what year we were planning on getting married. Because their 40th wedding anniversary is 2009 and they're planning a big family event. (Which is going to be so awesome! It's such a blessing that they're still together and in a healthy relationship after all these years.) They didn't want to have two major family events in the same year - wedding and anniversary party - since none of us have that kind of vacation. Well, my father does, but what can you expect after 35+ years with the same company? They offered us first pick and said they'd be totally flexible with scheduling their event. My parents are awesome.

Hearing the year 2009 and imagining a wedding that far away was hard. I don't think I want to wait that long to get married. We're happy and we're sure we want to be committed to each other forever. So I told my parents that we would get married in 2008 and we would celebrate their anniversary in 2009. That was all fine and good until the glass of wine I had at dinner wore off and I realized what I had done.

I committed to planning a wedding.
In 2008.
And 2008 was only a month and a half away.

I haven't been freaking out since that realization, but only because I'm not thinking about it. Typical avoidance behavior...but it works so well! Time isn't on my side so I have to face the music. It's time to plan a wedding.

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