Roxie inspired me with her post about making room for happiness. It's my turn to be publicly grateful for the things that make me happy.
1. Chris, my husband and best friend
I know it sounds stupid, but I never knew married life would be this good. I love being with Chris. We laugh a lot. We share so many of the same interests. And Chris is always doing or thinking about interesting things. We could do nothing and as long as we're together I'm happy.
2. B, the coolest high schooler I know
I'm lucky enough to mentor a high school student. I'm so thankful she is in my life and for all the things she shows me. Our friendship makes me really, really happy.
3. Bentley, Mac, & Stewie, our three dogs
The unconditional love makes up for all the trouble our furry "kids" can be. It makes me happy when the follow me around the house or when they want to get in bed with me and cuddle.
4. Fat Tire beer by New Belgium Brewery
I'd like to lose some weight and am pretty sure that I need to cut back on drinking beer. So for the past couple weeks I've limited my intake. Last night I had a Fat Tire and it was so, so good. Maybe it's silly to say this beer makes me happy, but it does.
5. Being appreciated
Recently I had a few instances of people have been telling me that they appreciate me. Affirmations put me on the moon.
6. Brunch with friends
Sunday we had brunch at Jo & Celeste's house. It was kinda last minute but it was so awesome to just hang out with friends. Great food and great company makes me really happy.
7. Hearing about other people's happiness
At lunch today, Jason told me about all the fun he had at the Phoenix Idiotarod Race. It was awesome to hear his enthusiasm and happiness.
What makes you happy?
Dear Social Media Managers,
My attention span on the Internet is very short. When you want me to see content you've created, please send me DIRECTLY to the content. Don't route me anywhere else. Send me directly to your content. After all, isn't that why you published it?
Be thoughtful about your audience's experience.
Case in Point
Today, Cooking Light on Twitter posted about recipes for the slow cooker. I love cooking in the crock pot because it is so easy. So I was excited to see the recipes. Unfortunately the link on Twitter sent me to Facebook where I had to click on another link which finally directed me to the CookingLight.com. There was nothing on the Facebook page that added any value.
Naturally, I was annoyed at the detour. But more important, Cooking Light isn't getting anything by doing it this way. Their ultimate goal of using Twitter or Facebook should be getting me to their site. Their site holds the value - I find their content, I can add comments. see the ads they're making money from, and most importantly sign up for a magazine subscription.*
*Disclosure: I currently have a subscription to Cooking Light magazine thanks to my good friend, Celeste. I love the magazine and often cook the recipes! I don't mean to pick on Cooking Light because I think their content is great. I've been seeing things like this too often and felt like I should point it out.
Awesome!
"Nothing ever changes unless there's some pain."
- Tears for Fears in Goodnight Song
With the change from 2009 to 2010, there was a lot of talk about what we were doing ten years ago. People like to think in nice big chunks, like ten. To me, ten years is a long time. A lot changes in ten years...a lot.
New Years Eve 2000
Autumn and I spent NYE in Austin, Texas with our friends, Taylor and Kris. We went downtown for the festivities. I remember getting there just before midnight. There were huge crowds of people in the street, lots of lights, fireworks (I think), and huge video screens. We counted down, yelled, and headed to the closest bar.
The bar we got into was Aqua Lounge, which I only remember because I wrote it on the back of my photos. Kris tipped the bartender very generously for our first round, which paid off the rest of the night. The bartender made stiff drinks, gave us shots, and gave us tons of attention. Naturally, we drank a lot that night. I remember it being a lot of fun, but not anything specific.
I was wearing some ridiculous heels, something I seldom do any longer, and the walk back to the car was torture. Taylor was kind enough to give me a piggy back. I'm sure we were a hilarious sight. When we got back to Taylor's apartment, I got sick from drinking too much and spent the rest of the whee hours of the morning throwing up or sleeping on the bathroom floor. Not exactly the best way to start off the new year.
Worst than spending the night being sick, I learned the next day that my long-distance boyfriend kissed another girl because he was so convinced that I'd be kissing another guy. Thank goodness what happens at the beginning of the decade doesn't define what happens for the rest of the decade.
New Years Eve 2010
This year Chris and I went to a neighbor's house. They had a small party with other couples and all their children. It was a blast watching the kids ring in the new year at 7pm and 8pm Phoenix time. Eventually the kids were put to bed and the other couples with kids left for home. We hung out with our neighbors until 11 o'clock and were back to our house before midnight.
Chris and I rang in the new year from bed, which was exactly perfect!
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Weather
December was overall a great month. This year December was a very, very cloudy month for Phoenix. It was cloudy so often that I found myself cursing the weather. (I never curse Phoenix's weather in the winter. It's perfect here!) Luckily the weather in January has been making up for it. It's absolutely gorgeous and I haven't even needed a jacket during the day. We've been spending lots of time outside, which is lovely.
OK, back to December! The early weeks of the month were the hardest for me since Chris was away from home quite a bit. The last couple weeks of the school semester meant he was wrapped up in projects and lots of group meetings. By the time finals were over, I was pretty jealous of all the time school stole him away from me. Though it helped remind me to appreciate all the time I normally get with him.
My parents came to visit for a weekend. We had only a few plans, but ended up mostly staying around the house. I think the cold & cloudy weather did it. I loved just hanging out with them and talking. We also baked holiday cookies, cooked lots of great food, watched The Blind Side in the theater (and loved it), and went out to eat a couple times. It was an awesome weekend. I hope they visit us again soon.
Due to catching a cold, Chris and I missed a few holiday parties, which was a huge disappointment. But we were healthy for Celeste & Josiah's Dessert Party. It was a fun time with lots of sweets!
Out of Town Visitors
We were blessed with a few more out of town visitors in December as friends were in town for work, visiting family, or just passing through.
I got to see a friend from grad school, Aaron, who was here doing work. David & Arianne drove from Texas to California to spend the holiday with family. They stopped in Phoenix for a quick lunch with us. Later in the month, Cinnamon & Andrew were visiting family for Christmas. Luckily they stole away from the family for a couple hours and had dinner with us. Stewie just loved Cinnamon and she is now claiming him as her Phoenix boyfriend. (I don't think Andrew is too jealous.)
Reconnecting with B
A highlight of December for me was reconnecting with B, the young woman I mentor. We hadn't seen each other in a couple months so it was great to catch up. She turned 17 in November, which reminded me how fast time moves the older we get. She's so positive and happy. It's amazing how comfortable we've become having known each other for over a year. Time is an important component of building trust.
We saw New Moon, the second movie in the Twilight series, in the theater together. It was great to hear her gush over the actor who plays Jacob. This past year I read all the books in the series and thought she would enjoy them as well. So B's Christmas present was the first three books. (The fourth isn't in paperback yet.) It was wonderful, wonderful to find out that only a few days later she had already begun the first book and couldn't put it down. I'm glad she's reading and enjoying it. Most importantly, I'm glad she's back in my life and that we're spending time together.
Losing your loved one is never easy. I really didn't want to start out a new year with death. At least I have the memories.
Aunt Jennie was 96 when she passed away in her home in California. Jennie was my great aunt, my grandfather's sister, a Lucci. She lived an amazing life, especially for a woman coming of age during WWII. She joined the service which allowed her to leave her small town in upstate NY and expand her horizons. She was extremely independent and lived alone much of her life. She never married but earned a PhD and had successful career in occupational therapy.
She didn't care for flying so she drove all over the US. I can remember her coming to visit us in Texas when I was a child. Her little dog sat in the back window the entire trip. Jennie drove sitting up straight and leaning forward towards the steering wheel. As I got older, she drove less so I visited her in California. She had an immaculate house and garden. In her 90's she went to bed in the late afternoon and woke up at 4am. She spoiled her little dogs...she even fed them ice cream!
Jennie socialized best one-on-one. I am very lucky that I was able to visit her a number of times 2005 -2007. I have very fond memories of my weekends with her. The last couple times we visited, she told me that she had lived a long life and she was ready to die. She said she didn't understand why she was living so long, but God must have something else for her to do. I heard she went quickly, which was exactly what she was ready for.
Brad, aka TheBrad, was known for a dinner event at South by Southwest he hosted called "Breaking Bread with Brad." I first met Brad in 2002 when I went to the Iron Cactus for BBwB. I didn't join the meal because I had already eaten. I sat at the bar which ended up being the best seat in the house because everyone had to walk by me to go to the restroom. It was a great night and I talked with many friends and met new ones. Eventually Brad came out and we met. He insisted that I join his party, which instantly made me feel welcomed. Brad made everyone feel welcome.
His sense of humor made me blush at times and he was always going 90 miles a minute. He brought so many of my good [blogger] friends together. I can't imagine what my life would be like without all those friendships made at SXSW.
Brad was only 41 when he passed. That's entirely too young. He is missed.